A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE

.....one old love
she can imagine
going back to...
and one who reminds
her how far she has come.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
.....enough money within her
control to move out and
rent a place of her own
even if she never wants
to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
..... something perfect to wear if
the employer or date of her dreams
wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
..... a youth she's content
to leave behind...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
......a past juicy enough that
she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
......a set of screwdrivers, a
cordless drill, and a black
lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
.....one friend who always makes
her laugh . and one who lets
her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
......a good piece of furniture
not previously owned by anyone
else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
......eight matching plates, wine
glasses with stems, and a recipe
for a meal that will make her
guests feel honored.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
......a feeling of control over
her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
.....how to fall in love without
losing herself...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
....how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend
without ruining the friendship.. .

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
.....when to try harder ...
and when to walk away...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
....that she can't change the
length of her calves, the width
of her hips, or the nature of her
parents...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
......that her childhood may not
have been perfect...
but its over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.....
.....what she would and wouldn't
do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
.....how to live alone... even if
she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
.....whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't
take it personally.. .

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
.....where to go...
be it to her best friend's
kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
..... what she can and can't
accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year

---Anonymous

One of those days...

She looked spaced out today as she ran around in office. She looked at herself in the mirror and could see some major damage there. Yet she could not stop and assess the damage. She had no time. She wanted no time... She knew she wanted something that she might not get. And she did not want to let the uncertainty bog her down..

She pined away,yet she put on a brave smile and flitted around work...But her smile was failing..Her patience was wilting....

He

"He is hot", I said
"He is known to have stolen hearts of many",you tell me pointedly.

sigh.... Life...

Haunting Dreams.........

I woke up in a cold sweat unsure of where I am. Sat there for a while scratching a mosquito bite. Walked around the home looking for a mosquito repellent. Something wasn’t right. Something was nagging me... I found the mosquito repellent and yet I could not sleep. I tried to concentrate on what was bothering me but to no avail. I sat staring at the blank lappie screen for a while...

And then I remembered the dream which had disturbed my peace... The haunting pain was back...I had tried to block it subconsciously but it had already done enough to disturb my carefully crafted equilibrium...

Sometimes you become so used to a wound that your senses dull to the ache... The slow pulsating soreness becomes an integral part of your very existence...But sometimes the sting of stab through the heart rears it ugly head to force you to come out of protective shell...
U acknowledge the pain u look at it straight in the eye hoping that it would go away...
It only laughs in your face...U stare deep in its eyes to see the images from the past staring right back to you...

You curse the ghosts from the past... What adds to the pain is the thoughts that these ghosts have probably long since forgotten you and moved to greener pastures...

There is nothing that you can do. I wait for the pain to dull. Will it ever go away...They say time is a great healer...

Oprah Rules!

Oprah
wrote this about
men...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to
be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what
makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not
better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if
he
has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing
less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two
way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are,
and
you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you
need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another
woman prepare.

The moment

I sit at home with my lappie,my love this season and wonder where am I heading... Andthen a voice in my head says Just Be.... Life is not always about getting sumwhere. Just live in the moment for a while...

I am taking every day as it comes..Not planning my getaway for next week end. Not wondering ......

Impromptu parties like the party I had at my place last nite makes me smile... A party usually means a week of planned effort forme... And yet i think i pulled a decent one yesterday..

Just to be able to walk in a shop and try outfits and pick something which appeals to me without mapping my wardrobe and trying toplug in the missing pieces has a fresh appeal....

Hanging out with friends and just doing what heart desires at themoment is a nice break and feels like a new lease of life...

Maybe Icould get used tothis Maybe not...

Let me just flow with my rainbow.....

View from office window

As I sit on my desk looking out my window.The water fountains, the swinging plams trees, the well manicured bushes. The ripples in the water and shimmering sunlight.The glass building, a huge mirror where you can see the whole world pass you by.The sun and shadows as they play this game of hide and seek. The garden chairs sitting pretty amidst the quiet hustle. Few people saunter by from time to time. Rows of quaint bikes,the fire fountain and the street lights greet your corner view. I do work in paradise. So much for small pleasures of life.

hang me

hang me o hangman
for world aint my cup of tea
the rope will be my jewel to freedom
u my lover
death my marraige
and hell my destiny

U and U alone matter

People hurt u only because you let them hurt you.You need to stand up and say I am worth much more and walkout on them. And always remember if they have hurt you once they will hurt u again.

HERE'S TO THE WOMAN…

Who knows where she’s going… and will keep on until she gets there;
Who is loyal to family and friends, who expects no more from others than she is willing to give;
Who accepts both victories and disappointments with the same grace,
Who gives the gift of her thoughtfulness, who shows her caring with a word of support, her understanding with a smile;
A woman who brings joy to others just by being herself...
- Anon

Lessons

Sometimes we must be Hurt in order to Grow, Sometimes we must Fail in order to Know, Sometimes we must Lose in order to Gain, Because some lessons in life are best learned through PAIN....

"Men become old, but they never become good."

I once believed men could change for the better. I believed in relationships people evolved and grew to become better human beings. They understood that in relationships one needs to adapt to one another. I thought love made it simple.

But I was awakened to the harsh reality that men cannot or rather will not change. They demand to be accepeted the way they are.The onus of change is on the woman. I thought maybe I was biast by my relationships, so I went around talking to women.

To my surprise it appeared that the lighteneing had struck me a little late. My fellow wmen lready knew that men were mules. It is simpler to find a way around then try to make a man change. It is a painful process and maybe works sometimes but the odds agianst it make it alost bet.

Is there some genetic information coded in the genes which makes women more open tochange and adaption?